I Only Wanted to be a Dad ISBN: 9780956907653, VASPX (Steve Petrou), contributing author Dr. Robin Hadley.
This unusual book contains a Prologue followed by twenty-five chapters and an Epilogue all about a problem that is far more extensively distributed than generally expected. The subject of infertility is commonly thought of as more specifically pertaining to women. Here the reader is apprised of the fact that it also affects men with similar thoughts, fears, hopes, desires, anguish and attacks on their faith as well when, subject to their desire (or more specifically, overpowering need) to become a father. The discussion is provided by the owner of a ‘fish and chips’ store, who as an ‘average man’, seemingly brings startling reality to the picture. Perhaps a little unusual for today’s seemingly somewhat less committed population, he is a man who is completely devoted to his wife and her desires, emotions and needs. Thus, throughout the lengthy presentation he demonstrates the tenacity of purpose so often missing or overlooked today when problems mount to large proportions in a marriage – specifically the few words called for in the marriage vows providing this phrase: “…. ‘till death do us part”. The author’s presentation is highly descriptive with all-encompassing minute details.
Discussion: According to statistics provided, the infertility problem is of significant proportions and the various means taken in attempting to solve it are far more numerous, than generally believed. This story as set forth, examines intimate details and their effect on every feature of the problem/solution. Further, it is done from an interesting point of view of an average citizen so affected. Solid additions are provided by the contributing author whose studies have contributed much to the understanding of persons suffering from the malady, no doubt aided by his personal experience. There is extensive repetition in the overall manuscript and obviously has provided a welcome catharsis that can be recognized and empathized with by affected readers. The statistics provided are most enlightening and the last chapter and Epilogue offer most thoughtful advice actually for any ‘thinking’ reader.
Conclusion: A book that interestingly shines light on an apparently quite common but generally little recognized problem. It is important material that no doubt certain readers may find helpful. Other readers unfortunately will find the presentation boringly repetitive and depressing. As stated above, however, the last chapter and epilogue offer excellent and, again although repetitive, thoughtful advice worthwhile for most of today’s readers, many of whom consider the bottom line as their only goal and know ‘the price of everything and the value of nothing’.
3* 5* for empathetic readers; regrettably 2* or less for others apropos my conclusion.